“Behave yourself” well, I’ll give you candy. ” One of my favorite phrases in parent education. Here he writes about it, so Hohel. It is known that the expression of anger, like the other senses, it is natural for a baby who screaming or crying, requires the presence of the mother when it is not enough food, warmth and communication. However, growing up, the child is often faced with the fact that his feeling uncomfortable around him, and learns to repress them, instead of learn how to transform it. From infancy adults can punish children for the expression of joy (“Sit on the seat and not jerk!”), Fear (“do not be ashamed – so big, and afraid!”), Anger (“stop crying, and then take the belt” “How do you talk with parents ). rify these questions.
Instead teach them to show emotion in a way that does not suffer from neither they nor others (unfortunately, most parents are not able to teach this child, because do not know how to do it yourself). But when a child is angry, for it is natural to cry, scream, or try one – it hit – it should be its nature, because they do not know how to suppress their feelings. However, being punished for such behavior, he soon finds that his feelings are bad and should be in every way to hide or ignore. Not being able to openly express such anger, such a child in the future becomes touchy, irritable and often vindictive to other people – or he has lived with guilt for having experienced that – then the “bad”.